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Welcome back!

Before I get into to it I want to make sure everyone is up to date. First, make sure you have signed up for the free crash course on approaching and attracting women at my website. Second, make sure you have read my first articles called "How to make a move - Keys to dating". There is some info in both the course and the previous article you will need to get the most out of this one.

Ok, so last time we looked at "crucial moments" you experience when dating a girl. These are the moments most guys get a large case of nerves from as they have the potential of leading to rejection.

We looked at the scenario of getting a girls number, and also asking for a date. Today we look at how to prepare and act on the first date, and then the ever so nerve wracking first kiss.

Ahhh the first date. I love the first date. I get charged up. I love women and I get excited to explore each one I go out with.

On the first date, you want to make a good impression, but you also have to treat it as though it is her opportunity to make an impression on you.

I know many guys who go into it thinking they have to do everything they can to impress. I dont agree with this mindset. Sure, Im going out to show her a good time. But Im also looking to see if she meets up to my standards.

A few things you must do before each date:

Shower Maybe even twice. Scrub yourself down. Wash every little flap, crevice, hair etc. on your body. And wash your feet for crying out loud.

Wear clean clothes Especially socks! And please make sure your outfit is coordinated. I wrote an earlier article about self improvement in the area of appearance that you can look up if you want some more tips on wardrobe.

Brush, floss, rinse and scrape I remember one girl I went out with that had horrid breath. It was a complete turnoff even though she was extremely attractive. Dont fall into the same boat.

Brush your teeth. Use a tongue scraper (Honestly, this is so important) and floss. Follow this up with a rinse with mouthwash.

Wear a cologne A recent survey I did revealed Lacoste Red, Guess Man and CK Euphoria (best 3 out of 15 tested). You dont have to rush out and buy one of these, just make sure you smell nice.

Ok, now on to the date itself.

Its important to act calm and relaxed when you meet the woman. Almost indifferent. This doesnt mean you ignore her or act cold towards hers, but you dont automatically act as though she is someone you are interested in.

Make sure you don't fall into the trap of having an "interview" type date. So many first dates involve the typical questions like "tell me about your family" or "what did you take in school" blah blah blah. These questions are really just time fillers. I avoid them altogether on a first date.

Try to be funny and confident. It is better to be laid back and bring up funny topics than be like every other guy and ask the above questions. Keep it light. I go into this in more detail in my free crash course sign up today if you have not already.

Approach the date as though she has to prove her worthiness to you. You dont want to be one of those guys who automatically goes into it with the idea that he has to do everything he can to impress her.

Remember, you want to make a good impression but you want to come across as unique. And, as I have talked about in the past you want to make her see you as a challenge.

Lets jump into my favorite moment. The first kiss.

This is where guys tend to be extremely nervous. However, there is no need to be. Let me give you some tips so that you will know when the time is right, and how to execute. Here is a great way of gauging if she will be responsive.

While you are talking to a girl, start stroking her hair. Making a comment like your hair is so soft is always a good idea. If she seems to enjoy this, then I have no fear of going in for a kiss.

You dont have to stroke her hair gently rub her leg, hold her hands etc. Just make a simple gesture that involves some form of physical contact and then read her reaction.

Her body language will tell you a lot. Does she lean into you? Is she smiling? Does she touch you back? Does she giggle? These are all very positive things.

Follow your instincts and then just go for it. If you have been following my advice from the crash course you signed up for at my website, then you have most likely built up her level of attraction to the point she is dying to kiss you.

Remember. It is imperative you pay attention to her body language and that you have built up her comfort level throughout your time with her. Most importantly shove aside any of your hesitations. You cant let your nerves stand in the way of a passionate kiss.

Once you get past stage you open up the doors to all sorts of kinds of intimacy. It can be a big turning point in your interaction with a woman.

That wraps it up for today. Hopefully you feel comfortable in making a move and going in for that first kiss! Feel free to email me with any questions or stories you might have!

That's all for now,

Will Mason

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Will Mason is a relationship and dating expert who helps men achieve high levels of success with women. He offers a free crash course on this art which can found at his website

The term "healing" conjures up images of fixing something that is viewed as broken or unhealthy. Sexual healing would be needed to heal a physical illness or to correct behavior that is sexually dysfunctional or deviant. Pedophilia, sex addiction, impotence, and frigidity are some examples of conditions for which sexual healing through the aid of a medical or mental health professional would be most appropriate.

Tantra is not a method of sexual healing so much as it is a useful tool for bringing about a change of negative or uncomfortable attitudes towards sexuality and becoming more open, relaxed and sexually whole. Tantric practices, among many other things, help to dispel the most common myths and misconceptions about sexuality to establish an intelligent, rational setting for a natural, healthy, more enjoyable sex life. Tantric practices are useful in enhancing sensitivity to simple sensual pleasures, realigning unbalanced energies, and liberating us from unhealthy cultural beliefs regarding sex and sexual pleasure.

Sensual Enhancement
A major part of tantric practice is to pay close attention to what we see, hear, smell, feel, and taste without analysis or judgment. The more focused attention given to the senses and sensual stimuli, the more sensitive they become, and it takes less to arouse them. Because sex is a highly sensual activity, the enhancement of all sensual perceptions has a direct positive effect on libido and the ability to sustain sexual excitement. More pleasure is enjoyed from less and less effort, and without overindulgence. Tantra helps to take us back to a time when a simple touch brought a rush of warm feelings of joy and ecstasy, and this way, the pleasure of touch is greatly extended far beyond the mere moment of physical orgasm.

Energy Balance
Within every one of us are differing energies. Among them are Shiva, the masculine, calm and dynamic; and Shakti, the feminine, earthy, creative, and intuitive. When these internal polarities are balanced and integrated, we are able to take full advantage of the qualities of both such as clarity and intuitiveness, peace, and power. The result is a dynamic whole, the interplay of yin and yang, each capable of giving and receiving (sharing equally) pleasure with a partner. Encounters with others, both sexual and nonsexual feel more egalitarian when there is the lack of competition and constant worry and fear about unfair advantage. Fear and worry block the flow of energies, particular the energies needed for relaxation and fulfillment. Tantric relationships generally promote more cooperation and freedom to experience the joys of sexual playfulness.

Cultural beliefs
Sexuality is a natural and healthy part of life. Without it, life would cease to exist. Tantra is a discipline that originated in India and the east, where sexuality has at times been less repressed than in the west. The western current shame-based attitudes towards sexuality have led to the abuse of sex so much that it is exploited to manipulate and to sell virtually any and every product ever marketed. What a confusing concept! Tantra takes us away from the falsity that sex is nasty, evil, disgusting, or sinful. In fact, sex is considered sacred because it is associated with the supreme life force. When viewed in a way that is perfectly logical and rational, the possibility of a happy healthy sex life without being doomed to the depths of hellfire becomes all so real. Tantra empowers us to view sexuality in a way like any other, without negative or positive connotations, and devoid of guilt, disgust, and shame.

Equally damaging is the idea that only skinny people are sexy, or that there is any such physical standard requirement that must be met in order to be sexually desirable or to be permitted to enjoy the basic and normal joys of the body. All this is as if sexual satisfaction is a scarce commodity, to be enjoyed only by a select few. This all-pervasive fallacy is the root of many an eating disorder, and self esteem issue. When we consider that a majority of Americans are overweight, we see the widespread result of poor sexual relations and demeaning sexual attitudes. Tantra practitioners dismiss such beauty standards as a form of discrimination, which is discouraged, and a problem of separation. The tantric ideal is that people are all connected, all beautiful, and all divine. Therefore, any sort of physical requirement is absolutely absurd. Tantric practices require that we befriend, love, care for, and respect the body as a divine gift. To be sexy is a state of mind--being open, connected, and receptive to loving touch, no matter what weight, height, age, color, or shape.

Conclusion
Sex and sexuality are but a very small part of Tantra. However, almost all exposure to tantra by westerners derives from misrepresentations and misunderstandings of the practice through some well-meaning so-called healers and some not so well meaning profiteers. Most often they make easy money by claiming that tantra is limited to sacred sex and a neurotic quest to live out bodily passions. This hyperbolic emphasis on sex positions, prolonged orgasms, sexual healing, controlling ejaculation, etc. simply preys upon the western aversion to sexuality, the unhealthy western fascination with sex and everything sexy, or both and has very little to do with authentic tantra. Tantra is actually a very simple, deep, subtle spiritual practice in which adherents learn to use sensuality, creative energies, and breath to become completely present to reality, with an open heart, in order to simultaneously experience a greatly expanded state of love-based consciousness.

Lisa D. Branscomb, J.D. is the founder of LifeBliss Solutions. LifeBliss offers workshops, retreats, celebrations, and individual coaching on ways to use sensuality and tantric arts to create a richer, healthier, happier, more delicious lifestyle. For more information see LifeBliss Solutions